Saturday, August 20, 2011
The past week has been so great for me.
A lot of things in my life are finally falling into place.
And on top of that for once i have a guy that is around that seems to be good for me (i hope!)
Upon thinking about what the future holds for me and my life plans...i could not help but also think about what it potentially holds for Mr. Adventure and I.
I was putting so much pressure on myself about the camping trip because he was going to get to meet my best friends...and i wanted them to like him and get along. I had always wanted a guy that my girls would like and get along with and not hesitate to hang out with me if they knew that he was coming along.
After the camping trip...i realized that some of my friends liked him...and some don't.
And that worried me...
But then i had to ask myself...why?
I am not dating guys that will please my friends.
I am trying to find a guy that pleases me and that is there for me...if he happens to get along with my friends then great! if not...then i don't know. After being in college and joining clubs and my sorority...you learn that not all ppl get along. Not all personalities go well together...and you have to learn to compromise and make things work.
And when i actually sat and thought about it...honestly i have not liked alot of the guys (or girls for my ex-roomie) that my best gals have dated! LoL
For some reason they were mean...or rude...or suspicion of infidelity...or too over bearing on the relationship....(or with the girls for my ex-roomie most of the girls were just down right ugly and way to weird/dumb)
I guess i wanted to put alot of emphasis on my friends liking him because i know how i have felt about guys they have dated in the past. But all in all...no matter what...as a friend i would support them in their decision of who they chose to date or be with. And that is what i hope they are doing for me
I just hope/pray it does not affect my relationship with my close friends...because like the saying goes...
"Hoes before bros!"...or "Chick before D*cks!"....LoL
2 ...CoMmEnTs...:
i've had the same issues with my friends -- but i realized that true friends will speak honestly with you BUT support you if they see that you are happy -- and be there for you if/when you are no longer happy. It's part of being a friend! I met one of my most amazing friends when i joined my sorority -- and she taught me that!
When I first started "dating" the husband, he and my bestie didn't get along. And I thought I was going to have to chose. But over time, they got to know each other. My besties realised that he didn't change the way I felt about her. And he realised she only has my best interests at heart. Now they get along like a house on fire. I don't think any of my friends dislike him, at least none of them have said so. But ultimately you're right, you're dating him. Its about you and him, nobody else needs to be in your circle or burst your bubble. Enjoy falling for him xx
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