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Sunday, January 23, 2011

well it is Sunday...
one more week down!

today's blog title is inspired by No Doubt's song "Different People"...
the perfect title to describe how i am feeling.

Well needless to day this past week was NOT as exciting as the week before.

didn't get to hang out with any guys, worked my butt off b/w my two jobs, research, and a anatomy class i decided to sign up for ....

well i did indeed go to see the "basketball coach"...his team had a home game so it was only a 45 min drive so i went. it was alot of fun...it was really hard to stop looking at him and to pay attention to the game! LoL
i am strongly attracted to him! i cant put my finger on it, but i am...and it drives me insane!

"med school" came over Thursday Friday night for a little bit. he has been busy studying for classes and test so communication has been very limited. it was a nice gesture for him to want to stop by.  not sure of the motive behind his visit but needless to say it was good to see him and joke around. i am strongly attracted to him as well.  i mean at first i wasn't! i had let all the bad things that ppl had said about him kind of taint my own preconceived thoughts about him ...but after hanging out he is pretty nice. i can tell that he has been through alot...but we haven't "gotten to know each other" yet....not sure when/if that will come,...but we shall see.
i think i am just attracted to well educated black men...LoL...it is clear that he is well educated (he is in med school!) but just our conversations and the way he talks....*sigh*....yea....ill stop now...LoL

"the rock man" i haven't gotten to see! he has been busy working 10 hour days, and weekends he is off limits due to the fact that he has a son and gets his son every weekend. not to mention the weather hasn't helped either. we did have a conversation. he said that he really enjoyed spending time with me and knew he had a crazy life and didn't want that to affect how i felt about him.  and i was sure to make it clear that it didn't as i too have a very busy life...so we shall see what this next week brings...

the other day i sat down and thought about ALL of the guys i have come across in my life...
some better than others...
some leaving more of a mark in my mind than others...
and lets just say i have kissed alot of toads....LoL

ok ladies i will share what i have learned so far about a guy...

• if he says "yea ill call ya later/tomorrow/sometime"....DON'T GET YOUR HOPES UP!!! even if you like him alot...you can get excited if he actually calls you in a decent amount of time!
• there is a HUGE grey area when it comes to that weird stage of when you first met and you have been hanging out for a while...best way to clear it up is ask....some guys will be honest...and if a guy is seeing other ppl i have learned that alot of them will hide it b/c they know that girls like to be the one and only....you will get lucky and get the guy who will keep it 100% truthful and flat out tell you...
• take something from each relationship!! good or bad. i know that i try to take something from each guy that i have met. there is a lesson there...you just have to sit and think about it
• if a guy likes you (and even some of the really good players out there may do this as well) they will pull out all the tricks to impress you!
• some guys like to lie...the problem is trying to figure out when they are lying and how to handle it when you find out they lie...me i am not the type to just keep my mouth shut so i just ask or call them out on it. i have met MANY men who lie about alot of things (their job...money...things they have done...things they have done) not sure why...i guess to try to impress me...but lying about small stuff that doesn't matter is stetting you up to be disappointed when something major happens....
• i am naive...i don't know why...but i just am.  and i think some guys can pick up on that.  lucky for me i had men in my life who were players and played the game very well...so i was able to see/know the signs of what to look for when a guy isn't being quite truthful....you ask for a example? ok well this one guy one day says to me "hey I'm pulling up to my moms house i just wanted to call and say hello...she doesn't like when i come over and i am on my phone"...this covo would happen oh around 8 or 9 PM...and usually when he was in his car driving someone. after this the only time i would get a call was when he was at the grocery store...at work on his lunch break...or these small 5 min "check in" phone calls when he was "driving to his moms house"...very notable and possible he is telling the truth?...but weeks before that he would always talk to me when he was at his moms house...no matter what...weeks later...i found out he has gotten another women pregnant and they have been "staying with each other" for sometime...

i have many more examples of crappy things that have happened to me...i seriously could write a "how to avoid crappy guys" book...
now i am able to spot the bullshit (pardon my french)
at this point i am all about finding what i want. if you are here to waste my time then move on! i don't have time for the lies or games...and usually when/if i write them off and they done attempt to come back its a sign that i was right to do so.  b/c in that one instance if you write someone off and they really want me...they will keep working and trying to get my attention...

i mean these things i have observed and seen could be false and i could be totally wrong...but i have seen a pattern and have stuck with my instincts and it has proven me right every time.

so until i am done with this journey of finding "someone"....i guess i will have to keep trying...keep "playing the game"....and keep learning.

so if anyone has any advice...I'm all ears!!